"Ring by Spring" is a serious thing…

"Ring by Spring" is a serious thing…

Answer It!-June 19th

yeahadventists:

Hey! In case you missed my earlier post, we have a new thing here called “Answer It!” where you get to answer our [reasonably light-hearted] questions. Get in a response before 9 pm EST [by submission, ask, or reblog] and we’ll post it up here!

And now for the question:

Walla Walla University was recently highlighted on Yahoo! for its incredibly high marriage rate. If ‘Western Wedding University’ decided to capitalize on this officially, what could be its new official slogan?

Answer it! Do it now!

Reblogging for the afternoon crowd. Will reblog again in a couple of hours for the evening people.

Answer It!-June 19th

Hey! In case you missed my earlier post, we have a new thing here called “Answer It!” where you get to answer our [reasonably light-hearted] questions. Get in a response before 9 pm EST [by submission, ask, or reblog] and we’ll post it up here!

And now for the question:

Walla Walla University was recently highlighted on Yahoo! for its incredibly high marriage rate. If ‘Western Wedding University’ decided to capitalize on this officially, what could be its new official slogan?

Answer it! Do it now!

I suppose a lot of us have grown liberal enough to have wedding rings instead of wedding watches…. but then again…

I suppose a lot of us have grown liberal enough to have wedding rings instead of wedding watches…. but then again…

Submitted by ridiculouslydropdeadgorgeous
Either"Husband of one wife"
or
"Men/Ladies, [s]he’s still single"
or
"Looking for her Boaz"

Either

"Husband of one wife"

or

"Men/Ladies, [s]he’s still single"

or

"Looking for her Boaz"

wanderlust-jrai-deactivated2012 said: For the person requesting an Adventist perspective on unequally yolked relationships, this was pretty insightful- as was the part two that links a continuation. campus-press[.]org/thinktank/looking-both-ways-adventists-and-dating/

I read through it and it is a good article as well. Here’s the link!

~Yvonne

Anonymous said: I have been taught in the Adventist home that we should find our mates through the church. I also have been taught that we should go out and tell the world about Jesus. One time in Sabbath School, the discussion came up about Adventists dating other than Adventist. I was bit surprised with the answers that were given. They discouraged Adventists dating other denominations. In my perspective, I thought it'd be a great idea to witness to them. What are your thoughts on this?

Hello Anon (and sorry for the wait),

I think it’s cool that you are eager to witness to other people. That being said, I don’t think that dating should be used as a missionary tactic and there are several reasons for this. First off, dating, or courting, is supposed to be to find your future spouse. I’m guessing that you may have heard the verse that says to not be yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) and you may notice that it doesn’t say a word about marriage, but marriage, in fact, is yoking yourself with another person for life, a permanent unit, or, one flesh (Matthew 19:4-6)

When it comes to marrying outside of your own religion, it gets dangerous. For example, King Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, was turned away from God because of his wives worshiping other gods. This is what happened to the children of Israel time and again, which is why it was emphasized several times in the Old Testament not to marry people of other nations. It was not a race issue because of such cases as Zipporah, Rahab, and Ruth.

What more, in relationships, the two are supposed to grow together in the Lord. In the Bible, with the first union of that kind (Adam and Eve), Eve was made to be a “helper” to Adam (Genesis 2:20), aka, someone who could support and aid him. That being said, dating, and marriage, is all about “give and take”. There is a certain balance, homeostasis even, that is in the romantic relationship, that also applies to their spiritual lives. They are to seek God and grow in knowledge together as did Aquila and Priscilla did in the Bible (you can read their story in Acts 18), and as you grow closer to each other, you grow closer to God as well. Think of it as an equilateral triangle resting on a side, the top point being God and the bottom two being the two lovers. Moving up the triangle along the lines towards God brings them together as well. That won’t be able to work as well in a one sided relationship, or even a relationship where one is constantly behind with no effort to catch up. It creates a gap, a divide, between the two lovers, where the options may be for the higher one to either move backwards or to leave the situation, and the gap, as is.

Finally, and this is from personal experience, unequally yoked relationships are painful, from either side. Naturally, one would want to share everything with their significant other, but when it comes to belief systems, there are some things that the other may never fully understand or accept. That leads to complications as time passes and things get more serious, and if that relationship leads to marriage, then there is the issue of what faith to raise the children in and church and etc. Even if the other was to convert, sometimes it’s just to quell the concerns of his or her significant other, and that usually doesn’t last.

Even though we are only talking dating here, such a thing should still be considered with great care, asking God to lead you to the right person. No, interfaith dating doesn’t always end up disastrous and sometimes the other does genuinely convert, but often it isn’t worth putting so many things in jeopardy. I hope this helps to answer your question!

~Yvonne

Before she passed away this December, that person for me (Yvonne) was Dean Valerie Phillips. She was always that bright smile that cheered everyone’s day. Do any of you know someone like this?

Before she passed away this December, that person for me (Yvonne) was Dean Valerie Phillips. She was always that bright smile that cheered everyone’s day. Do any of you know someone like this?

Submitted by an Anon
And then they start telling you where to find them…

Submitted by an Anon

And then they start telling you where to find them